When we say the word ‘pleasure’ what comes to mind?
Pleasure is one part of Comprehensive Sexuality Education (CSE) that is the least discussed. We must be fair to acknowledge that pleasure is one of the driving forces that lead humans to do any sexual activity. Pleasure is about more than sexuality, it is also another way to see human sexuality in a positive manner.
Pleasure is one of the seven component of IPPF CSE framework, hence we strongly encourage to incorporate this component in our CSE work among young people. With reference to the January 2010 IPPF framework on CSE, subjects around pleasure includes:
being positive about young people’s sexuality; understanding that sex should be enjoyable and not forced; that it is much more than just sexual intercourse; sexuality as part of everybody’s life; the biology and emotions behind the human sexual response; gender and pleasure; sexual wellbeing; safer sex practices and pleasure; masturbation; love, lust and relationships; interpersonal communication; the diversity of sexuality; the first sexual experience; consent; alcohol and drugs and the implications of their use; addressing stigma associated with pleasure.
The question is: how do you present pleasure within the CSE curricula?
At the ESEAO Regional Comprehensive Sexuality Education workshop we held in Bangkok from 13th – 16th February 2012, we did a creative activity based around pleasure.
We started by asking the participants:
what does pleasure mean to them? what gives them pleasure?
Some of the answers we got were:
Talking with loved ones – Having sex – Watching porn – Holding hands – Orgasms – Hugs – Kisses
We also asked the participants to rate these activities and arrange what they considered to be highly pleasurable at the top and not as pleasurable at the bottom.
- Walking hand in hand
- Deep kissing
- Touching each other’s genitals
- Rubbing against each other
- Oral sex
- Gazing in each other’s arms
- Caressing his/her hair.
The activity helps us to realize the differences we all have in defining what we believe pleasure is to us. It is also important to recognize that not everyone has the same idea about pleasure and that pleasure is an important part of our sexual identity.
Do you want to try this games? 😀